Letting Go

LETTING GO
Those words written by Paul Simon are indeed true. There are fifty-hundred ways to leave your lover, ah but the catch is that there is no easy way to do so. It is an emotionally wrenching and physically taxing experience to break up with someone that you have been physically intimate and emotionally bonded with. There are no Hallmark cards that you can send to your lover informing him/her that it's over.

The best way to leave your partner is by making a clean break of it. Sit down with him/her and calmly and tenderly state your case. Outline all the reasons why you feel that the magic is over. The truth is that there is nothing logical or rational about love. Your partner may not agree with the logic of your arguments, but he/she will no doubt sense that indeed the twinkle of love no longer sparkles in your eyes. He/She may not immediately agree that it's time to end the relationship, but the truth will soon sink in.

The best time to leave your lover is right now. If you are certain that it's time for the relationship to end; do not procrastinate. End it now especially if you are in an abusive relationship. Bullies who emotionally abuse their partners and take advantage of them in whatever way possible rarely, if ever, change their destructive behavior. An abusive person does not deserve one more chance. The same principle applies to those that are unfaithful. A leopard will sooner change his spots than a cheat will change his ways. A relationship is built on trust and faith. Once that foundation has been shattered, it's over.

Don't wait until your lover screws up again before you break up. You need to be calm and reasonable when you tell your partner that it's over. You don't want to be in a fit of rage when you break up or else you will probably spew out hateful words that you will later regret. most of all, NEVER EVER LIE. remember, its the last formal break up converstion you will have with someone once special in your life. come clean, at least for the last time. its better to get hurt NOW knowing whats actually happening than get hurt eventually realizing that the entire relationship was just built up on lies and deceit.

Once you have broken up with your partner, don't join a monastery and vow never to date again, but by the same token don't be in a hurry to replace the person you just dumped or who has dumped you or you might end up with another jerk.

It's never easy letting go and saying good-bye but unless you let go of that weight that is holding you down you will never be able to grab a hold of the lover who truly loves you. I hope that my essay will embolden you to finally let go so you will be free to accept the love of the person who respects and loves you with all of his heart; and not with some jerk who just sticks with you for his own selfish benefits; maybe, just maybe, finally with someone who will accept you amidst your imperfections. it can happen. in HIS own time =)

November 16, 2007 in jerry's talkin... Permalink Comments (0) TrackBack (0)